There’s a lot of things people tell you before reaching adulthood. You get to be your own boss, you get to drive a car, you get to buy things with your own money! You can even live anywhere in the world. That all sounds great, and it is BUT there is so much more that comes along with that.
You are going to change. Life is about change. I wish I had known growing up I was going to go through so many changes. Body, life, friendship, and goal changes. I promise you whether you’re 15 or 35, you are not done changing yet. Life is about constantly expanding and growing and learning. There’s no wrong way to go about it. If someone tells you that you’ve changed simple say thank you because you’re growing. You’re becoming the person you need to be at the time. You may think you want to be an actor at 13 to make a lot of money and you realize at 18 your passion is to help people or make a difference in someone’s life. Your body will constantly be changing, please be nice to it. You only get one. Your friends will change. You’ll have life long people and people who you grow apart from. Please change. Change for the better. Change to make yourself happy. People who think you’re supposed to remain the same will never understand the benefits of what change can bring.
You’re going to meet a lot of people who aren’t meant to be in your life forever. Some people are only temporary, don’t be angry at these people. You need them to teach you. They’ll teach you what to epexct and what you want out of friendships. They’ll teach you what it’s like to love and what it’s like to lose. These people aren’t bad, they’re just not meant to be with you forever. They’ll teach you to stand up for yourself and that you deserve just as much as anyone else. However, at some point if you’re really lucky, you’ll find people who stay with you for a lifetime. Chriss, Meg, Brittany, G, when you read this, just know you’re my lifetime. These are the people who will show you what friendship means. What it’s like to love someone besides yourself and how you can love someone just like they’re family. These people you CHOOSE to let in to your life. They’re the ones who matter. They’ll be with you through your highs and your lows. They’ll pick you up when you fall and will cheer for you always. Keep these people.
Finding a job, even with a degree(s), will be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. BUT, do what you are PASSIONATE ABOUT. If you do something to make someone else happy, you will be miserable for eternity. This is your life to live. Chase your dreams. Be happy. My hope for you is that you’ll be fulfilled in life. You’re not alone in your struggle. Our economy isn’t easy to work in. As long as you can feed yourself and have the necessities, that’s all that matters if you’re happy. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad for not spending a ridiculous amount of money on a pair of shoes or a new jacket. Material items may be nice but your happiness is more important than making a lot of money at a job you don’t like. Do what makes you happiest if that’s makeup, art, photography, styling, designing, WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY. Be passionate and you will find work. Be strong. Be determined. Make it happen.
A budget is a NECESSITY. Spending money on unnecessary shit will be the death of you. Do not let someone tell you that you need to buy a $2,000 coat or $500 pair of shoes you’ll wear twice to be accepted or admired. Don’t feel obligated to buy the expensive brand of bread when you can’t afford it. If you like that bread though, budget for it. Make a plan. List the things you know you have to have like rent, water, lights, and groceries and figure out how to save money. Sometimes that may mean not going out to dinner with friends or staying home and watching a movie. THAT IS OKAY. If someone tries to make you feel less than for saving and budgeting and surviving, that reflects negativity on them, not you. Your necessities come first, then your wants. That’s part of being an adult, you must make the right financial decisions before you end up sitting in the dark with a $2,500 laptop and no way to charge it. When you budget, you save.
You’re doing fine. I know it may not seem like it but you are. No matter what age, you’re learning. You’re living. You’re surviving. You’re doing your best and that’s all that matters. Don’t lose faith in yourself, don’t become discouraged, most important DON’T COMPARE YOUR JOURNEY TO SOMEONE ELSES. You never know what someone else may be going through,a lot of people who seem to have it all together are self destructing inside. Be happy with yourself and your own life because you are doing your best. We’re eternally growing up.